Do you know how to practice self-love?

Do you know how to be present and see yourself as important? Or do you believe that you are valuable and that your thoughts and feelings matter? Are you aware of how to practice self-love?

We live in a world where the majority of people live disconnected and isolated. We pretend we are okay and perform through our day. Put a smile on your face even though you are dying inside, right?

But what if we could learn how to get connected to ourselves and stay connected? What if connecting to ourselves meant we could better connect to others, to God? What if we didn’t have to walk through life aching inside but pretending everything is fine? If you could laugh more, feel deeper love for people around you, and for yourself? What if I told you there is a way to get this? Would you want it?

Connecting With Self

Getting connected to yourself will help you to feel safer in your body. This is a huge step when you are learning to practice self-love. When you are a secure place for yourself, you feel more secure in any environment. Instead of looking for an atmosphere or a person to be secure for you, you get to be that safe place. This means you can walk into any situation, be around any kind of person, and know at the root of who you are, that you are secure.

What a beautiful way to live right? But how do you get there? How do you become safe for you?

To start, you talk to your body. You put your hand on your heart and “you are safe with me. I know I haven’t always been a safe person for you, but I want to start today.” And then you follow through t the best of your ability. You learn self-compassion, you learn to value yourself even when others don’t. You learn to validate you big emotions and pain that you experience. And you listen to yourself and your body. If your body doesn’t feel safe in a certain atmosphere, you give yourself permission to leave. If your body doesn’t respond well to a certain person, you give yourself permission to take a step back from connecting with them.

The key is to give yourself permission to fully be you without correcting or judging. You also get to be a voice of reason. Like a parent would not allow a child to speak rudely to them, you get to tell yourself the same. If you start to hear a narrative that does not align with love, you get to say “I won’t allow you to speak to me that way.” This is called reparenting. Reparenting is what you do when you needed a parent to be healthy and love you well, but you didn’t receive it. So now, as an adult, you get to give yourself the love and compassion, and sometimes correction, that your child self never received.

Examples of reconnecting

Reconnecting to yourself can look like,

• Recognizing a present emotion (You can get my free guide get reconnected to yourself here)
• Validating a feeling. “I see you are feeling sad, it’s okay to feel sad”
• Listening to the story of pain. “You said you are feeling scared, do you want to tell me what happened?”
• Letting yourself hear that you are safe. “You are safe, I’m here with you and I am a safe place.”
• Allowing yourself to have needs and meeting them. “I hear you are sad, what do you need from me?”
• Being okay with your big emotions. “You are not feeling safe right now. I’m here for you, if you don’t want to go to that event, we don’t have to. We can stay home if you like. You are not alone.”

When we allow ourselves to feel big emotions and don’t pressure ourselves to be happy or better, we build trust with ourselves. We are sending the message to ourselves that we are important and that we are valuable. This creates security and confidence.

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Also, If you’re looking for resources, I have a basic step-by-step guide here on how to unpack triggers and connect with your heart.

If you are wanting to learn how to process pain and want to start a healing process for yourself, I am offering one-on-one coaching sessions. These sessions will help in learning how to process pain in a healthy way that actually brings lasting change and self-confidence.

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