How Do You Handle Stress When It Comes Up?

Sometimes when we get stressed, all our pain comes out. We feel overwhelmed easily, we get more easily irritated with others, and our capacity can feel really small. How do you handle stress when life gets to be too much?

The best thing to do when you recognize you feel stressed, is to identify what the cause is. Find a way to pull back, get back to a place of calm and allow yourself to not stay stuck in the stress. Find friends to laugh with, eat good food with good people, spend time doing something you love. Get back to what grounds you and makes you feel like you again.

What Does It Look Like To Pull Back?

This can look like choosing to slow down and not plan as many events and interactions with friends that will drain you. Choosing into relationship with people who will build you up, listen to you and encourage you. When we are stressed and overwhelmed, we need people in our corner who can support us. Talking through your stressors will help relieve the weight you feel. It can also help to get outside perspective on where you are and reassurance that you are doing good.

When we isolate during stress, our stress only lingers and builds. Sure, you can spend time at home, watch movies, and eat way too much junk food. But bringing another person into that even, will eleviate the pain some. We aren’t meant to do life alone and you don’t have to.

Invite People In To Help You Handle Stress

Find good people who can support you when you are going through a tough time, and allow yourself to be fully seen in your overwhelm.

Our bodies are built to regulate with others. When someone is calm, present, and patient with you when you are super anxious and overwhelmed, you will be able to regulate your body and emotions to match their calmness. So just being with another person that you feel safe with will help a ton when you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed.

If you find that you are around people that are causing more stress and overwhelm, those are the people that you most likely do not feel seen and safe around. They aren’t safe people for you, and that’s okay. You can take note that those are not the people that will be helpful to you when you are in stress and overwhelm. Not every person is going to be able to hold space for you, and that’s okay too.

Find the people who can and invite them into where you are at. Ask them to meet a need, whether that be a simple, “hey, can I come hangout for the evening? I need community and safe place that feels like family.” Or “Hey, are you available for lunch or coffee this week? I really need people who are in my corner.”

It’s Okay To Ask For Help

It’s okay to ask for help, it’s okay to feel overwhelmed, and It’s okay to feel messy and need people. You aren’t meant to do life alone. It’s also really good for the soul to laugh. It’s good for you to need people, to focus on what’s going well, to recognize how far you’ve come. Yes life can be stressful sometimes, and it sucks, but it can also be really beautiful too. There is space for both to exist.

So allow yourself to laugh this week. Find a good comedy, a silly video, or make up a funny dance with your best friend. Have a game night, go for a run, take your friend out to coffee. Enjoy being human, in all it’s messiness and beauty. You’re not alone friend.

Was This Helpful For You?

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