Do you have unhealed pain in your life?

Most of us walk about with unhealed pain. We are taught to stuff our emotions, keep your head up, distract ourselves and pretend everything is okay. But what if we’re not okay?

What if we’ve been stuffing our pain for years and we’re still in massive pain? What if stuffing our pain actually turns to working more, chasing status, avoiding intimate relationships,binge eating, or other addictions we don’t actually want in our lives?

If you’re not okay there is probably a reason

We’ve been taught that it’s not okay to not be okay. It’s not okay to have big emotions. It’s not okay to feel overwhelmed, stressed, or like we are not enough. We are struggling to rest because resting means I’ll actually have to sit with the pain that I’ve been avoiding. Being still means that all that sadness and weakness I’ve been doing my best not to feel, is going to hit me like a ton of bricks. And if I let it start, it will never stop.

The reality is, our emotions are actually our friends. They tell us when we’re hurting. They tell us when we need to slow down. They tell us when we need to be seen and comforted. Emotions arise when we need to feel. They might not always tell the whole story. They might not always be “right” or “logical”, but they are still needed. Our emotions are always trying to tell us something.

If You’re Not Okay

If you’re not okay, you’re normal. A little secret I’ve been learning on this journey of healing unhealed pain. If you’re feeling big emotions, if you are experiencing deep grief, or even anger, you are perfectly normal. Why? Because every human experiences big emotions. Every person carries pain. Every person experiences times of anger, sadness, or anxiousness.

Are we meant to stay in that state? Of course not, that would miserable. But if we are constantly avoiding our pain, we are also putting aside happiness and content.

If you’re not okay, allow yourself to be seen. Either by safe friends, mentors, or a counselor of some sort. If you need help, that’s okay. We all need help sometimes. Our pain needs to be felt, seen, and validated in order for it to leave. Allow yourself to feel the sadness, the grief, the anger. Practice becoming a safe place for your pain to be seen and heard. You are your biggest advocate for yourself. If you need help, ask for it.

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Also, If you’re looking for resources, I have a basic step-by-step guide here on how to unpack a trigger and connect with your heart.

If you are wanting to learn how to process pain and want to start a healing process for yourself, I am offering one-on-one coaching sessions. These sessions will help in learning how to process pain in a healthy way that actually brings lasting change and self-confidence.

I’m also creating a course that goes into the depths of all this as well. The course will take you step-by-step in how to walk through a healing journey. You will get live group coaching calls, a community of support, and one-on-one coaching with me. Also, subscribe to my email list to get updates for when the course is launched! If you have questions about anything, please reach out! I would love to chat with you via email.

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