Whew, this past season has been full of big changes and lots of moving pieces. Do you ever have those weeks that you look back and realize it went way faster than you wanted it to? I feel like I’ve been playing a bit of catch-up in the last few weeks.

So many good changes and so many fun things happening. Since I’ve been out the past several weeks from blogging, I wanted to catch you guys up on what I’ve been doing and the good things I’ve been learning! So grab your favorite drink and settle in!

Seasons Shift

Something I’ve been realizing more lately is how quickly the season can shift. And how sometimes we’re prepared for the shift, like a big move, or starting school, or a new job. And sometimes we are absolutely caught off guard. Like getting into a new relationship, getting pregnant, or suddenly having to move or quit a job. And something I’ve noticed is always true about a big shift, is that it takes some time to adjust and settle into them.

It takes time to understand how the shift is affecting you. Time to get to know your new surroundings and experiences. And time to accept what your new normal is now. I’m learning that it’s okay to feel both excited about the new season and sad that the old one is gone. To feel both content with things shifting and also scared. To feel both happy with where you are heading and confused about all the new thoughts and feelings that are showing up.

Change Can Be Stretching

I don’t think we can get out of being stretched in the midst of big life changes. I believe they are always going to cause us to be challenged and give us an opportunity to grow in a way we haven’t been presented with before.

I’m also learning that the way we choose to approach a new shift or sudden change sets us up for how we experience the new season itself. If we come in dragging our feet, offended that things look different than we hoped, and frustrated that we can’t get them to go back to the way they were, we’re going to feel miserable and struggle to enjoy anything.

But if we choose to look at the changes as something that can teach us, we will start to look for the good and the growth. Where we put our focus is what will lead our thoughts, emotions, and actions. It will determine what we experience in any given circumstance. So where are choosing to put your focus?

See The Good In The Changes

Something that I’ve been putting into practice over the last few years is learning to see the good. Putting my focus on what I can do, rather than on what is going wrong. When I first started doing this I had to learn how to change the narrative when things would suddenly shift. My old narrative would be a constant of “what’s going to happen”, “this isn’t what I wanted”, and “now I have to suffer.” I felt like I had no options and I was completely helpless and out of control. I didn’t feel like I could do anything about what was happening to me.

But as I started to become aware of the inner narrative I was living in, I started to see how negative it was to my overall well-being. Not only did it make me panic and feel deeply out of control, but it also felt harder to ask for help and talk about what was happening with others because my helplessness was almost being thrown onto those around me when I’d speak about it.

I didn’t know I had options. I didn’t know there was another way to handle my emotions.

Name The Options Out Loud

As I continued to grow, I learned that it was helpful to name out my options. This way I didn’t feel quite as helpless and out of control. If I could, I would name three options that I saw I could take. Sometimes this would be asking for help, sometimes it was journaling, and sometimes it was seeking out time with a friend to see what they had to say about it.

Change can be hard and it’s even harder when we try to do it alone. Don’t be afraid to ask for help and put yourself out there. Doing life with others can really help ease the pain of new seasons and big life changes.

I hope this was helpful for you!

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