Most of us were not taught how to be emotionally healthy

If you were born anytime before 2015, you most likely did not have parents who understood how to help you identify your emotions and regulate back to calm and secure, ie be emotionally healthy. Our parents were most likely not taught and the parents before them were probably not taught as well. Why? Because our society is just becoming aware of how damaging it has been on previous generations to not be able to fully feel their emotions and get back to comfort and security.

It’s Not Your Parents’ Fault

If you didn’t have parents who knew how to help you regulate and get comfort, that’s okay! It’s often that way because their parents before them weren’t taught how to become emotionally healthy, and their parents before them weren’t taught, and so on. This doesn’t mean our parents are bad. It just means they were never given it themselves, and you can’t give away what haven’t first received. So your parents aren’t the problem. Society might be selling that they are, but they’re not.

Just because you weren’t taught, doesn’t mean you cannot learn

We often as humans tend to find someone to blame for our pain. But most of the time we are part of the pain that continues. If you were never taught how to be emotionally healthy and have a secure attachment, that doesn’t mean you can’t learn. We are amazingly smart humans with brains and bodies that can heal and reform. So if you are afraid that you will always feel stuck, think again! Our brains and bodies can learn to heal over time. You can get the freedom you are yearning for!

By becoming more aware of how you are feeling and what is driving that feeling, you can go back and rewrite the story. You can become a safe person that comforts and heals the wounds in your heart. By becoming emotionally healthy, you can bring freedom and wholeness to the parts of you that are struggling and in fear.

So How Do We Become Emotionally Healthy?

One way we become emotionally healthy is by surrounding ourselves with emotionally healthy people. How do you know if people are emotionally healthy? They feel safe with you. They are warm and inviting, they might seem wise and caring to you. People you look up to and can become inspired by. They love deeply and are intentional people. They have solid friends and aren’t afraid of your big emotions.

Another way we become emotionally healthy is by processing our pain. Yes, the big pain that we are afraid will cripple us if we even look at it, that big pain. Why do we have to face those kinds of pains? Because there’s a small part of ourselves that never got the care and safety she needed. She never got the comfort, never got to be heard in how it affected her or made her feel. And at some point she shut herself off to ever wanting to feel pain or be hurt ever again in the same way.

She thought she would be better off invisible, closed off, and emotionally not available. Because the opposite would be living in a world of sadness and pain. But she still yearns to be seen. She still hopes that someone will hold her and tell her everything is going to be alright. She still wants friends to fully know her and love her exactly where shes at. And she is waiting for someone to care.

What if that someone could be you?

Maybe the only thing she is missing is your connection to her. What if you could become a safe adult for her to feel seen, heard, and valued. If she knew she wasn’t bad for feeling scared or sad or hurt? And her pain was finally heard by someone who cares? What if that someone is you?

Does this sound like something you want to understand more? I’d love to work with you in my 12 week coaching program where we will focus on getting you connected to your true self. We’ll walk through your deepest pain points and uncover the part of you that you have been missing so that you can become and more whole version of you, emotionally healthy and all. Send me an email below to book a free consult.

Much love friends,

DylanRose